When a friend or a family member dies, the best step is to extend a helping hand during those times of grief. Yes, good discretion and common sense is always applicable as proper etiquette inside funeral homes, but there are still few principles that should apply.
How should you behave inside funeral homes? What would be the proper etiquette and guidelines that you should follow?
General Guidelines to Follow
Cultures have various formalities regarding the attending of funerals. It’s best to understand any special requirements or concerns related to the deceased’s religion or culture.
It shouldn’t feel awkward to address the family member of the deceased. It will never be comfortable to deal with death and the deceased, but the family members will always appreciate sincere condolences. At times you or the other party may be too emotional to speak; a warm hug will never fail to express what you mean to say.
Perhaps you’re a work colleague who doesn’t know the family members of the deceased. What you can do is to introduce yourself briefly stating how you know the deceased, and provide a sympathy statement afterwards. You can ask the family if you can be of help to anything, especially if you’re close enough to the person.
Behavior for Viewings and Visitations
The family members may choose to have a viewing prior to the funeral. It’s okay if you choose to spend only a little while. If you’re a close friend, you can stay longer especially if you already know the family members. If they don’t know you, you can simply introduce yourself and tell the family how close you were to the deceased. They will understand if you wish to stay for a longer period of time.
How Children Should Behave
It isn’t really a good idea to bring children to a funeral. It will depend though on the child’s relationship to the deceased. You have to completely prepare the child and tell him or her on what to expect upon arrival.
If you’ll be taking children with you, you will have to consider if you’ll be approaching the casket with them. You have to tell the children that there’s someone in the casket, someone deceased, and you can ask them if they want to go near it. Some children will be frightened and confused, and some will be okay with it. If you know the child well, you may be able to determine how the child will react in such scenarios.
How to Dress Inside Funeral Homes
You shouldn’t be wearing clothes with flashy colors or low-cut blouses as it will appear quite distasteful and disrespectful not unless it was specifically requested for by the deceased. The occasion usually has a melancholic and a solemn atmosphere, hence you should show the appropriate demeanor and conservativeness regarding your outfit.
Some choose to wear bright colors to celebrate the deceased loved one’s life and personality, but it’s best to check first with the family members and friends if the particular attitude will be okay with them.
You go to funeral homes to commemorate the lives of those who are deceased. They are also built to give the bereaved a chance to say goodbye and to help them move on in the process.
Don’t assume that simply because the deceased was flamboyant and carefree, you will also exhibit the same attitude in his or her funeral. Some behaviors may not be tolerated. You can share funny stories referring to memories you have of the deceased, but remember that your goodbyes should be uttered with respect and dignity.